My oldest daughter’s birthday is on December 31st and my grandma sent her a birthday card every year. Just after Christmas in 2014, after we’d spent the holidays doing puzzles with grandma in Chico, we got a call from her home in Petaluma that her knee was hurting severely. The events of the next few hours are blurry but she went from an ambulance for her knee into heart surgery. I was on my way to Petaluma with my mom in the front seat and Adela in the back seat, ready to help grandma recover from surgery, when my aunt called and said she had died on the operating table.