Often, the term ‘normal’ is used to express what is socially acceptable within a given cultural or social context. While an established social normality presents itself as a timeless and self-evident truth, it grows out of a contingent and fragile state, where norms have not yet been established. This dynamic state is a precondition of established social norms, so this paper argues, and can be phenomenologically described as intersubjective normality. Lived intersubjective normality is understood as an interactive and ongoing process of making and (un-)making of normality, which is characterized by an experienced friction between different ‘normalities.’ In a first step, the paper describes the genetic dimension of lived normality, that is, how something becomes normal on an individual level. In a second step, the paper analyses how normality is made and unmade intersubjectively. It thereby distinguishes between a social and an intersubjective normality. Whereas social normality situates and shapes every individual experience, intersubjective normality refers to the actual encounter between subjects. Such a space between is a source of normative friction, but also the place where one can stop clinging to old fictions, and begin to perceive the world and others anew, do things differently, and tell better stories.