Though we should support children to reveal more about themselves by providing predictability, we must also be spontaneous. This is because no two children are the same. Anyone who has more than one child or who has spent time with children will tell you that each child has their own way of being in the world. In his landmark book, The Child, the Family, and the Outside World, English paediatrician and child psychiatrist Donald W. WinnicottWinnicott, D.W. writes that “no two babies are alike” and implores mothers and fathers to trusttrust their instincts and to get to know their individual babies so that they will be able to give them the specific help that they need (Winnicott 2021; originally published in 1957). Likewise, in her pioneering book, Windows to Our Children, Violet Oaklander writes that: “One must keep in mind that each child is a unique individual. No matter what particular technique is used, a good therapist stays with the process evolving with the child” (Oaklander 2007; originally published in 1978, p. 194). Oaklander’s words are echoed by Irvin Yalom, who urges therapists to “be prepared to go wherever the patient goes” (Yalom 2002, p. 34). My point in sharing these quotes is to emphasise that we must be willing to travel on an unstructured journey alongside our clients.