Deradicalisation as an explicit counselling goal is paradoxical: the very request signals that the client has already taken the decisive internal step. Consequently, counsellors pivot from “changing” the person to stabilising and accompanying a self-initiated disengagement trajectory. The discussion first anchors this shift in key concepts of deradicalisation and systemic counselling, clarifying why support replaces persuasion. It then maps the subordinate objectives and the constellation of actors essential for sustaining the client’s change. Finally, it shows practical guidance on harmonising counselling mandates with the client’s autonomy throughout the disengagement process.