<p>Products that market themselves as “sex robots” (SR) today are programmable prototype systems rather than autonomous companions. Drawing on a compact Lacanian lens—<i>objet petit a</i>, the gaze, and the Name-of-the-Father—I show how programmable compliance short-circuits structural lack, shifting the user from desire to drive. SRs deliver a sense of being-looked-at through algorithmic attunement: the “gaze” mirrors the user’s preferences while sidestepping the unstable scrutiny of the (human) Other. Conceptually, I redescribe SRs as algorithmically designed surrogates whose upshot is compliance, not alterity. Analytically, I detail the mechanisms—pre-scripted role routines, affective response templates, and embodied cues—that can simulate recognition without installing a genuine gaze. I translate Lacanian limit into a programmatic ethics of alterity: principle for refusal and consent transparency. Implemented as design and governance constraints, these measures preserve otherness without anthropomorphizing the device and reduce the normalization of gender-domination scripts. The ethical analysis, coupled with a psychoanalytic account of programmable intimacy and actionable guidelines for configuring gendered identities, aims to prevent technological mediation from eroding the conditions of subjectivity and the formation of trust.</p>