In this paper, we study the Kirchhoff equation with Choquard nonlinearity of the form \(\begin{aligned} -\left( a+b \int _{\mathbb {Z}^3}|\nabla u|^{2} d \mu \right) \Delta u+h(x) u=\left( R_{\alpha }*|u|^{p}\right) |u|^{p-2}u,\quad x\in \mathbb {Z}^3, \end{aligned}\) where \(a,\,b>0\) , \(\alpha \in (0,3)\) are constants and \(R_{\alpha }\) represents the Green’s function of the discrete fractional Laplacian that behaves as the Riesz potential. Under different assumptions on potential function h, we first establish the existence of ground state solutions for \(p>2\) based on the Nehari manifold. Subsequently, we obtain the existence of ground state sign-changing solutions for \(p>4\) by adopting constrained minimization arguments on the sign-changing Nehari manifold.