<p>The challenges faced by Christians with LGBTQ orientations are often overlooked within mainstream Christianity. As a result, Christian communities can fail to provide support, care, and compassion to people who are working through issues of identity. This article discusses the case of an Australian Christian struggling with a lack of cohesion in his sense of self. His struggle resulted from issues concerning his faith and his queer sexual identity. The aim of the article is to describe and analyze the process of identity integration over a three-year period. The method blends phenomenology and scholarship: it uses clinical case material to examine one client’s experiences using psychological theories of identity formation; attachment (including attachment to God and its basis in trinitarian theology); schemas; and Christian writings on sexual identity. The client’s trauma and mental health issues were worsened by some Christian communities. Other communities were more supportive of his quest for an integrated identity. A key question arising from this case relates to Christian counselors and communities. How can they provide a safe, supportive environment where LGBTQ people can seek Father, Son and Spirit to guide their identity exploration and healing? Some suggestions towards a pastorally informed approach are outlined.</p>